Today, I start to take a Reflective Parenting Journal as recommended by iza's mentor. It's to identify & differentiate what my expections and iza's expectations are, especially those triggering stress.
(I still don't know whether I'll put the journal on the blog...)
Together with iza is always amazing "seasoned" with some "crashing".
Sometimes, she's so tender & sweet.
This is shared by iza's school teacher (she's wonderful & sensitive) the little chat between her & iza yesterday :
" I never know that there are so so so many works for a teacher. I'm so tired. I want to give up..." Her teacher pretended to be very frustrated. (They always make fun with each other, but this time iza was very serious.)
" Don't give up. Remmeber you have told me not to give up? If you are tired, have a rest. You can work things out slowly. You will be more comfortable." Iza said gently.
We are not expecting iza to response in such way, because she is always "nasty".
Iza does not compromise easily, and, she has difficulty in following rules.
Remmeber when she was still 3, she has stated clearly that she didn't like any toys with instructions. She only likes things like plastic clay. She always creates her own sets of rules on every issue. Even on the very traditional games, she creates new rules, changes them along the way... think that everyone understand her spoke & unspoke rules... It will be a diaster if we misinterpret her meanings...Sometimes is fun, sometimes it is very difficult.
Last Saturday, we volunteered to sell sticky flag for a charity. On the way from school to the destination, iza was having fun playing with one of her classmate. The girl asked iza to sing with her. Iza said that this was no fun. She suggested her classmate to cover her face all with sticker flags. Then, asked the others to guess whom she was. And, told them, " I am a nut! " They both laughed. Though I think iza's idea is more funny, she did not suggest that she would take part.
Is she always rejecting the others' ideas?
Does she always make fun on others? I wonder...
Recalling another incidence. When we visted a primary school a few weeks ago, we attend presentations from students. After a presentation of P5 on the topic of persuation, their teacher asked them if their maths teacher gave them 50 questions as that day's homework, how should they persuate the teacher? Most of the students said that they would show their past works to proof their capability...
Iza whispered to my ears, " Tell the teacher it is too much, they need to use calculator. "
I'm deeply impressed by iza's idea...yeah... give us more, then I'll use calculator...otherwise I cannot be able to finish such a nonsense task...yeah...I elaborated this in my mind...
At the same time, I can project that iza would be more difficult to handle by teacher...
I always have mixed feelings on iza.
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